Artsy Reflections

This is a photo by Sam Jones, scanned from an article in People Magazine (September 30, 2011).



It has been in my office with a note saying "scan this."

Nice reflection of the Hollywood sign. The whole article had photos taken of Neil Patrick Harris and that sign and that car.

I wanted it to go with my collection here: Reflections on Mirrors: http://sandradodd.com/mirrors

That has lots of notes and images, some of my relatives, some of strangers.

Holly did this all herself:


Here's the future Baron of al-Barran:


And the rest of my family, though none of that is in chronological order:

Connections at 20,000 feet

I've brought something written when Holly was 12 years old


April 17, 2003

Holly has asked this week about "worthwhile" and "ruthlessness." She wanted to know what they meant and why they meant that.

Then yesterday we were watching an old Twilight Zone episode, Nightmare at 20,000 Feet (with William Shatner) and at the end Rod Serling intones a long speech Holly understood none of. We wound it back a couple of times for me to try to write it down for her. I missed a phrase, but we quit trying. In 1963 nobody could have wound it back or looked it up on google. One pass and probably most of the viewers said "what?"

But after I had it scribbled as well as I could in two passes, we were discussing these terms:

"The flight of Mr. Robert Wilson has ended now, a flight not only from point A to point B, but also from the fear of recurring mental breakdown. Mr. Wilson has that fear no longer, though, for the moment, he is, as he has said, alone in this assurance. Happily, his conviction will not remain isolated too much longer, for happily, tangible manifestation is very often left as evidence of trespass, even from so intangible a quarter as the Twilight Zone." **

conviction
isolated
tangible manifestation (and then discussed "redundant")
"evidence of trespass"
and "so intangible a quarter as The Twilight Zone."

"Quarter" has a LOT of meanings, and a couple of them very intangible kinds of things!

When we were sitting down to watch Twilight Zone, Holly had to move the Tank Girl comic books she had been reading. One was called "The Odyssey." Then the DVD menu came up, and one of the episodes is called "The Odyssey of Flight 33." I was in the next room and she yelled to tell me about that, and I said "You saw the word 'odyssey' twice in an hour? Cool!"

"I saw the word 'odyssey' twice in one MINUTE!
What IS an odyssey?"

I told her it was a long adventurous trip, often unplanned. Reminded her of Jason, fleece/argonauts, and she said "and next comes the saga?"

She's right. Mixing languages and cultures, except where they meet in English.

That's a lot of vocabulary and history tie-in to come in the small space between the 1990s' Tank Girl comics and some late 50's/early 60's Twilight Zone on a Wednesday night, and it wasn't anything I could have planned, but I was happy to go with it when Holly brought it up.

Sandra

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Now, years later, technology makes explorations and connections even easier.
Some people might be able to see the episode here: http://www.hulu.com/watch/440824

But it's not any one TV program or book or film that helps. It's a quantity of various things, and having a mind that is not closed down with fear, shame, self-conscious, so that connections will come easily and joyously.

If one wanted to continue down this 20,000 foot path, though, here is something on NIGHTMARE AT 20,000 FEET & EPISTEMOLOGY — a transcript of a podcast called The Sci Phi show. "Epistemology" is a pilosophical term referring to how and why we believe and know what we think we know. That episode is thick with material for those thoughts. Seeing, thinking, expression, reflection.

Don't disparage the sources. Let thoughts flow.

…and a burrito

Once when playing Writey Drawey, a lake and a wombat turned into a gerbil and a burrito, and then a guinea pig and a burrito. Nice!


Today someone posted this on Hallie Kasiri's facebook page:


I used to make one-drop pancakes for Holly's pet rats.
We have given tiny watermelon slices to prairie dogs.
Same effect—they hold them and look SO CUTE!

Reflections, Projections and Shadows

Sometimes light makes a picture on a wall, or table, or ceiling, because it passed through, or didn't pass through, some object or substance. Sometimes it's water, or a treebranch in the wind, and the image has motion. Sometimes it's through a tinted window or a prism, and the image has colors. Some things are shadows, and some are projections, and some are combinations. This first one is my shadow, and the frames of the windowpanes in the front door, falling on a map of the U.S., at Emily Schnarr's house in Bryn Athyn, Pennsylvania.

(metal colander inside a plastic one, winter sun coming in low through a second-floor window)

"Objects in mirror…" message reflected or projected? Some and some?

This one is a blue plastic pitcher sitting behind a cloth screen, with low winter sunlight coming through both.

Sunset in a laundry basket:

Holly at the bean in Chicago:

Holly at the zoo one day:

Mysterious mysteries

When I create a new post on Just Add Light and Stir, sometimes I check to see if the title I'm about to use has been used before. Yesterday's was "Mysteries." It had not been used.

There are amusing mysteries, spooky mysteries, beautiful mysteries and sacred mysteries. Sometimes a thing is just a thing, and sometimes it's mystery. Other mysteries here: SandraDodd.com/mystery photo by Sandra Dodd

I liked that to one called "Everyday mysteries," with a slightly similar photo. But there were others, by name and theme, and I'm gathering them together here.

Everyday Mysteries (July 27, 2011): We don't know what will happen today. Plans can change. Unexpected things happen, and we don't even know whether they will be pleasant surprises or oopsies. Life can be mysterious. Learn to love surprises! SandraDodd.com/martyninja photo by Sandra Dodd A beautiful mystery (June 2, 2013): "I want to see Lucas Sven Leuenberger's math rock band. But where? When? "The future is a beautiful mystery." —Doozy Dodd One doesn't need to know what math rock is to appreciate the comment about the future. SandraDodd.com/holly photo by Colleen Prieto The Mystery of the Moment (January 11, 2013): "What's in there?" Even before children can talk they wonder. They want to look in boxes, suitcses, open drawers, look into cabinets. Life is a mystery—a puzzle full of wonder with things inside other things, surprises in disguises. When I was a kid, I was curious about buildings, houses, garages and sheds in my home town. I had a goal of going into every house. I tried to go into every business. Visiting friends, selling cookies, trick-or-treating and Christmas carolling got me peeks into private homes. Some folks are curious about how machines work, or similarities in the skeletons of different birds. Some learn how guitars are built, or what makes a soufflé rise. Notice what your children wonder about. Help them explore the world. Nurture your own curiosity. You can't know what will happen, or what you will find, and some of it will be wonderful. A mom named Amy left a comment on a Just Add Light and Stir post: I had always wanted to learn to be live in the moment, but it seemed a great mystery. Having my daughter and becoming an unschooler, I finally get it! . . . We are living together, happily, every day. What a nice way to be. Amy's comment is here photo by Sandra Dodd

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There was one with "…a sense of mystery…" in a 2002 quote from Ren Allen.

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Open and willing (March 23, 2013): I don't worry anymore that my children won't learn everything they need to for this life. I also see that joyful learning can only happen if we are open and totally willing to see every moment, every interest, everything as opportunity. We never know what a tidbit of information, or an experience might lead to...and not knowing can bring a sense of mystery to this whole Unschooling life. If we keep that sense of mystery, that feeling that this COULD lead to big things, (but if it doesn't that's ok too) we will so much better be able to serve our children well when supporting and encouraging their unique interests and pursuits. That's what it's all about for me. Being an avenue instead of a closed door. —Ren Allen April 2002 SandraDodd.com/ren/squirrel photo by Sandra Dodd I did use this squirrel on another post. If you follow the link to the rest of what Ren wrote, you'll know why I brushed it off for this. I saw this squirrel in Lyon, France. It was carved in the 17th century (at least the carving above it says "Maison fondeé en 1684").

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Looking at those as a set, there is something interesting. One is from July 2011, and all the rest were 2013. It could be coincidence. Literary analysis would suggest I became more interested in mystery as a theme, this year. Yet another mystery!

Swirly Hurlys, real and imagined

Last month, I was at the Phoenix airport and took a photo of the exit from the parking lot. It's a big one. Minneapolis/St. Paul airport has one, and my kids liked it when they were little. They called it the swirly hurly. Perhaps that's a common name for a kind of sick-making spiral road.

BUT…. those roads? Always just one-way. Down.

Then I saw this:

Proposed Pleasure Tower, 1937 Paris Exposition
If you click the link above, you can see some details—Restaurant for 2000 guests. Garage to house 500 cars. Beacon 2,300 feet high.

Maybe it's because I'm a mom. Maybe it's because I'm American.
This seems way crazy. One accident—who rescues? Who tows? One automobile over the rail—how many people does it fall on?

Even the artist couldn't get enough space on that road. Check the upper left, car coming up. And they're going into that big parking

What kind of easy suicide tower is that for the pedestrians who took the elevator up, or those on the platform who might've come out of autos. I just don't like it. It spooks me even that someone thought about it and drew it and published it, as though there was anything around it that was a good idea.

Maybe my instincts changed when I became a mother.

Scary stories of the Christian Cults

I find myself without a good place to save or express this. I've been reading this morning about HSLDA, politics (rare for me) and Christianity (not rare, but this was a rare set of readings).

I DID NOT KNOW that there are churches treating young adults as children.

I DID NOT KNOW that there were churches that tell children (of 20 years old) that they are not allowed to speak to their parents about a topic, or that would "forbid" a parent to talk to his or her own child (adult child). I am SHOCKED that there were adults (of 20 or 45 years) who would agree to such a crazy-ass condition.

*He commanded that no one talk about the incident in which they were personally involved and affected by, preventing parents from investigating the truth of their own kids’ actions and involvement. All were expected to accept his solitary findings without question. It is not “gossip” or “sowing discord” to discuss or even argue about actions in which one is personally involved.

That was about some kids who had danced at a bridal shower. Just danced. Then they were shunned from a church for two weeks, some of them; four weeks, some of them. And not allowed to talk to ANYbody about it.

Homeschooled families. Families homeschooling because they had been persuaded it was a sin not to. The quote is from the Baptist Taliban blog, but an unschooling mom who was once a Christian school-at-home mom in a church they left after many years of deep involvement.

Exploring, today, I also came to a list of blogs

Survivor Blogs

This page began as a listing of bloggers who grew up in and were affected by the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements—which is best captured in a loose array of leaders and organizations, including Bill Gothard and ATI, Dough Phillips and Vision Forum, Doug Wilson, Michael and Debi Pearl, Joshua, Alex, and Brett Harris, and Michael Pearl—but it has since expanded.

One had an account of courtship, in which parents were controlling young-adult children to a frightening degree, and it was acceptable to all four parents, and agreed to by the couple (now married, but once forbidden to be in the same place or to communicate in any way).

When I first met you – Courtship, Part 1
And then you broke my heart – Courtship, Part 2
All hell broke loose – Courtship, Part 3

I've put these here because I wanted to be able to find them again. I don't want to disturb unschooling discussions with them (and it would be off topic). If I put it on my personal blog, someone is tweeting every post, marking it "unschooling." This is not. I don't want them anywhere near Always Learning or Just Add Light and Stir, both of which are dedicated to peace and joy. These things are far from either of those, except in the fact that people are leaving oppressive, abusive situations. But the descriptions of why, and even the tone of some of the current posts, is broken, dark, and sad. People recovering from fundamentalism might not have enough years to recover in a long lifetime.

I've always known there were big bad things in and among the homeschooling families on that edge of reality, but I've seen worse today than I knew before. I had read years ago about families not letting kids play with other kids whose parents didn't believe exactly as they did about doctrinal details. Today I read about a minister who encouraged sports, but only against other teams of the same doctrinal beliefs. I read about men being told to keep their wives off the internet because women gossip 24/7 and will do damage to [churches? fundamentalism?].

Years ago I was asked how, if I didn't believe in hell, would my children learn to be moral. Or how I would teach them to be kind an honest if we didn't have Jesus, or something like that. EASILY!! Very easily. Make it about the kind of people they want to be, and the feelings of other people. Easy. And they ARE moral people, and kind, and nice.

What I read today was about cruelty, lies, porn and meanness, and they were blaming Jesus and the Bible for it all.

Partly it came up from anti-Halloween joking, and something about demon-possessed Halloween candy. That was funny, if the tip of an iceberg of horror can be funny.

DANGER, regarding leftover Halloween candy.

Quoting a warning:

"I do not buy candy during the Halloween season. Curses are sent through the tricks and treats of the innocent, whether they get it by going door to door or by purchasing it from the local grocery store. The demons cannot tell the difference."

Damn it, demons. Keep your demonic cooties out of the treats of the innocent.

Now perhaps this is part of the ravings of a mad woman possessed by imaginary angels. And perhaps I'm misusing the word "perhaps." But nobody fabricated that quote to make fundamentalist Christians look bad. (Why Celebrating Halloween Is Dangerous) Even the counter-opinion pro-Halloween-for-Christian-kids article is based on thinking that the claims of scaredy-Christians and neo-pagans are true about the dark and dangerous alleged history of Halloween.

But still... claiming that the candy itself is cursed is FUNNY! What a waste of emotion and belief, to see evil everywhere.

P.S. I've looked again, at that, in 2019, and the comments thread is a ton of fun.
Here: Demonic Candy at facebook.com/SandraDoddABQ/posts/10151781958891374

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More, on the site the demonic candy quote came from: Charisma Magazine, search for "demonic candy," 11 links found

On Why Celebrating Halloween Is Dangerous, quoted up above, the site has put a disclaimer, that it's a controversial topic,and those are the views of the author. They probably did it because several people commented on that and linked to it at the time. I only quoted the kid-friendly parts. She goes on to some REALLY wild claims.

Other commentary on her article:

Witches Put Demons In Halloween Candy? More Could Believe That’s True Than You Might Think. (Center for Inquiry)

Demons Get Busy in the Vortexes of Hell (The Atlantic)

Christian Broadcasting Network Warns Against ‘Demonic’ Halloween Candy (Huffington Post)